A style card from The Dating Social League
The Drifter
You let it happen, you let it end, and you never name either one.
The blind spot
You call it going with the flow. It is a decision, made by refusing to make one. Not choosing feels like keeping your options open, but what it actually does is hand the wheel to whoever is willing to drive, and then let you be surprised by where you end up. Two years is the standard cost, and you have paid it more than once.
What this style attracts
People who will do the naming for you, and people who are just as happy for nothing to ever be said.
Where this style starts
Choose. Choose is the Stage where a decision is made on purpose, out loud, to the person it concerns.
This is 1 of 6. Yours is probably not this one.
24 questions, about 6 minutes, free, and no account. You get your own style, your own blind spot, and the Stage to start in.
Take the AssessmentThe other 5 styles
- The CertainI decide early, and then I defend the decision.
- The AuditorI gather evidence, delay the verdict, and call it standards.
- The ProviderI earn my place by being useful, and I keep the receipts.
- The PerformerI become who they seem to want, and then I cannot hold it.
- The SentryI keep the door shut, and I call the distance standards.
Educational, never diagnostic. The Dating Social League does not match people. We teach you how you date, so you choose better.