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The Dating Social Academy

Dating is a skill with an order. This is the order.

The Dating Development System runs 8 Stages, and they only work in sequence. You start where your own Assessment says to start, not at Stage 1 because it is first.

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The 8 Stages

  1. Discover

    How you handle yourself, before anyone else is in the room.

  2. Heal

    What came before, worked slowly, with Healing 2 Love where it belongs.

  3. Define

    Your standards in your own words, and 5 things you would end it over.

  4. Prepare

    How you talk when it is hard, and how you repair inside a day.

  5. Connect

    How you behave in the room, on a real date, with the phone away.

  6. Evaluate

    Chemistry is 2 hours. Compatibility is 8 weeks. Telling them apart on paper.

  7. Choose

    The decision, made on purpose, and said to the person it concerns.

  8. Build

    What you do with another person over time, once you have chosen.

Heal is where Healing 2 Love, the League's healing division, keeps its own voice. Nothing in the Academy is a diagnosis, and none of it is care from a licensed professional.

The Lifetime Academy Pass

$197

One price, paid once. It is not a subscription, and there is no plan to compare it with. Here is exactly what it opens, and when.

  • The Field Book, both editions, sent by email today.
  • The Romantic Alignment Assessment and its Blueprint.
  • All 8 Stages of the Dating Development System, as each ships.
  • Every Assessment and member resource we publish, permanently.
Take the Pass

You finish on our secure checkout page. Refundable within 14 days on request, no argument. Everything already shipped is yours the same day, by email.

The Field Book

The work by hand. Self-scored Assessments, prompts you write out, and one Challenge per section that you run on a real date. Included with the Pass, or on their own.

  • The Field Book: Readiness

    7 of the 8 Stages in short form, self-scored, with one Challenge each.

  • The Field Book: Alignment

    The Four Pillars, the Ideal Partner Blueprint worksheet and the Growth Plan.

  • The Field Book: both editions

    Readiness and Alignment together, 7 dollars less than buying them apart.

Sent by email within a day of purchase, and added to your account when the Academy opens.

The Assessment library

  • The Six Dating Styles Assessment

    24 forced-choice questions, about 6 minutes. It names how you date, what that attracts and where it breaks, and it tells you which Stage to start in. Free, and no account.

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  • The Romantic Alignment Assessment

    70 items across the Four Pillars, about 20 minutes, scored 0 to 100 per Pillar with no single number for whether anyone is a good partner. Written and specified. It opens to Pass holders the day it ships.

Educational, never diagnostic. The Dating Social League does not match people. We teach you how you date, so you choose better.

The Dating Social Academy