A style card from The Dating Social League
The Auditor
You gather evidence, delay the verdict, and call the delay standards.
The blind spot
You are not choosing carefully. You are avoiding being wrong. There is no amount of evidence that will feel like enough, because the thing you are actually waiting for is a guarantee, and nobody can hand you one. Meanwhile the person in front of you can feel that they are being assessed, and good people stop auditioning.
What this style attracts
People who will audition for you, and people who quietly stop trying once they work out that the test never ends.
Where this style starts
Define. Define is where you write down what would actually be enough, in specifics, so the verdict has a finish line.
This is 1 of 6. Yours is probably not this one.
24 questions, about 6 minutes, free, and no account. You get your own style, your own blind spot, and the Stage to start in.
Take the AssessmentThe other 5 styles
- The CertainI decide early, and then I defend the decision.
- The ProviderI earn my place by being useful, and I keep the receipts.
- The DrifterI let it happen and I let it end, and I never name either one.
- The PerformerI become who they seem to want, and then I cannot hold it.
- The SentryI keep the door shut, and I call the distance standards.
Educational, never diagnostic. The Dating Social League does not match people. We teach you how you date, so you choose better.